Speed dating for business

In a survey we did before the speed dating began, participants rated their own intelligence levels, and it turns out that men avoided women whom they perceived to be smarter than themselves.

The same held true for measures of career ambition—a woman could be ambitious, just not more ambitious than the man considering her for a date.

She’s, by her own definition, a DWJF — divorced, white, Jewish female — and she’s looking for romance.

So why, Ellen, would you take your quest to the land of apartment scams and Ikea dressers?

By combining all of our choice and ratings data with separately collected background information on the daters, we could figure out what made someone desirable by comparing the attributes of daters that attracted a lot of interest for future dates with those that were less popular.

To figure this out, you could do "field work" at a local bar to observe the choices people make in real dating situations or sift through archived marriage announcements to see who chooses whom.

But observed dating and marriage choices are at least as much a result of whom we meet as what we prefer.

No, not by speed dating or being set up by friends or meeting a real-life matchmaker, but through Craigslist — the online classified section whose layout and functionality have been largely the same since its debut in 1995. I'm not a Victoria's Secret model but I am told I'm cute/pretty and have a sense of humor and am slim. I've tried online sites and am tired of looking at profiles with guys wearing hats and sunglasses. Seeking single/divorced/widowed professional funny, friendly male mensch for friendship/companionship and eventual romance in Manhattan. I enjoy reading and writing and am working on a book. Seeking someone drug-free and truthful and reliable. And Ellen's age group is what Pew calls a thinning market; Ellen, who has been riding the dating train since she was 44, has also seen the stigma of online dating disappear.

Here's her ad: The full text reads: The dating world has changed a lot since I got divorced. I love stand-up comedy, film, TV, theater, music, cruises, coffee, museums. Please don't respond if you are alcoholic or smoke pot/use any drugs, or are married/involved with someone else, or are under 45. "It used to be a thing no one understood or wanted to talk about," she recalls.

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